Yesterday, in school, near the latter half of the day, I walked into one of my afternoon classes. At one point during said class, the teacher was otherwise occupied, and many the boys of the class began to engage in physical contact with each other. This was perceived on my part to be a mass huddle. The boys were throwing themselves against one another. During this large group huddle, the words "Yeah! Rape gang!" were said at a high volume; high enough for me to hear six feet away.
What I don't understand is how anyone could casually mention the words "rape gang", especially in an enthusiastic way, and even during a completely unrelated class. And to compare tackle 'hugs' to being raped is not even possible. What's even more perplexing is that this incident failed to surprise me; at school, rape is often the subject of discussion. It is debated as to whether or not when a woman accuses a man of rape, if she was really actually raped, which is just a disgusting conversation to have.
The other week, a few boys were talking about, in multiple classes and very loudly, a sports player who raped a woman. There were back and forth arguments as to whether or not she was 'actually' raped; something along the lines of "I know that some chicks dig that" was said. ATTENTION: there is a difference between BDSM and rape, a HUGE difference. BDSM related sex involves consent, rape does not. And also, it shouldn't even be debated as to whether or not someone was raped; if they say they were raped you believe them.
A YouTube video from TheGeekyBlonde on YouTube titled, "YouTube Abuse Recovery" explains this well: "Let me make something very clear: you can never do wrong by believing the victim. Even if, against all odds, their accusation was proven to be false, all you did, as the bystander, was believe a vulnerable person. And the word of the victim should always be placed at a much higher level than that of their abuser. If you want to 'stay neutral', or 'just hear both sides', you are playing into the abuser's hands, you are not being neutral, you are siding with the abuser."